To snip or not to snip? (circumcision)

I'm  having a boy. 

Up until this point I never realized how negatively I felt about circumcision. 

Funny thing is, I always thought the anti- circ movement is ridiculous and I still do. I never got the whole "mutilation" thing. Most of the men I know have no problem at all being circumcised. I couldn't care less whether other people decide to circumcise their kids or not and I oppose any attempt in any country to cast is as some sort of human rights violation, or compare it in anyway to female circumcision.

(I think it may (may, as in might- not absolutely) affect some men's sexual functioning when they age but to a relatively small extent.)

So, I always thought I'd get my son circumcised if I had one, or just leave it to Daddy to make that decision. After all it's a guy thing, isn't it? 

Well now the moment has come, so why do I feel differently? 

Partly because the importance I place on Jewish identity, even secular Jewish identity, has really gone down recently. So instead of asking "why not?" the question has changed to "why yes?" And it looks totally different from this perspective.

Take earlobes. We don't decide to snip off the tips of the earlobes because hey it will recover quick and be easily forgotton and won't interfere with functioning, so hey, why not? we don't have a reason why yes. so we don't start snipping.

But also because I see the way I've been going about the medical aspects of this pregnancy. All natural. No intervention. No unecessary anything. No  interventions based on statistics on how they help a miniscule number of people. "why not" is not a reason to simply cut off a piece of tissue. After all, I myself never got a boob job or a liposuction did I?

This is what I consider the best medical care.

So I want to treat my kid the same way I treat myself don't I?

 And really, what difference does it make? the decision not to is reversible-  My kid can always choose to do it himself if he really feels so incomplete about it. (Actually, he probably will, growing up in a very Jewish environment for better or for worse....) But the decision to cut is not.

But for baby's daddy, a happy-and-proud curcumcised Jewish man (who is perfectly satisfied with his sexual functioning), circumcision is absolutely non negotiable.

And since I don't think its something so awful and horrible , I don't really have a reason- or means-  to fight him like cats and dogs on it.

But I'm not happy about it.