I got to the point where I just hated OTD blogs. I stopped reading them because they made me depressed.
They made me depressed because so many of them seemed to have built successful lives for themselves while I couldn't
The person I hated most was abandoning eden.
My baby's father asked me what a successful life is
A successful life of course is in the eyes of the beholder- actually the one living it. but I think there are a number of common factors involved and that at least a couple of them are required for most people to feel satisfied with their life. . .
They include some of the following, in no particular order.
2- having found a soulmate and life partner
3- having good close friends
4- playing a leadership role, in any context, even a minor one,
5- successful in a career that they enjoy and find meaningful
6- raising children according to their own values, and having a good relationship with them
7-engaged in creative activity other than career
I think it really only takes a couple of these things. But None of those things applied to me. Some of them are really just a matter of luck, but still fail like a failure even so. .
Of course not all OTD's are like that, in fact MOST of the OTD or quasi OTD friends that I have in person fit into my category- stumbling along at life. Perhaps that is because like is attracted to like. .
So In the next post I'm going to analyze why exactly I have not been able to get my act together.
Some things are my fault, some are my parents and society's fault. We'll see.